Responsible rinsing

Cash is king, consent is the whole hierarchy combined.

I want your money, but what I want more is a sustainable relationship where you come back and give me money in a way that doesn’t damage you or our relationship. 

Recently I had a dear pay pig tell ask me to rinse him. We’ve been involved in responsible Findom for a couple of years. I know the thrill and kick he gets from paying me and getting me the things I want. Recently he paid for my meal with my lover at NSW’s best restaurant (according to gourmet traveller), he buys lingerie for me, he pays my phone bill. 

However I know that he likes to extend himself into a space of panic with his spending. He likes to spend more than he can afford because it scares him. I understand this drive, however I do not support reckless, potentially life ruining spending or financial rinsing. 

I want you to give me what you can actually afford, in a way that means that we both get what we want. You get to pay your bills, mortgage etc and you support my lifestyle. 

I care for this submissive, we have a long standing relationship, and like a drug or alcohol hang over, once you’ve given your cash away, once the thrill has gone, the comedown/hangover/financial woes set in. I want him to give as much as he can, but I want him to be able to support himself and our relationship by not sending him into a shame spiral

So yes, I will rinse you, but only after you have paid your bills.

I will rinse you in a way that we can both enjoy, where we can both sleep easy at night and both get what we want

It might be slightly less thrilling, but I truly believe in financial responsibility and I want to give that to both of us.